A while back I was helping a friend of mine get a girl he liked, by giving him advice and tips from the gaming arsenal. Then suddenly one day he said he couldn’t get this girl and wanted to give up. The reason: He had developed strong feelings for her! The more he thought about the girl the more she got to him and it caused unbearable mental trauma. I advised him to forget the girl and move on.
If one develops romantic love for a woman, one most likely won’t get that woman because one is going to screw things up by acting like a beta male which will turn off her attraction even if there was any. Read reason # 3 in Three Reasons for a Man Not to Fall in Love.
Now the question is: How to avoid developing feelings for a woman and acting beta? The solution is to view women as mere sex objects. It may sound spiteful and misogynistic when I say that, but if one understands a woman’s sexual nature then one would see that the way to respect a woman’s deepest desires is by gaming her, which essentially means projecting alpha-male qualities. For a beta male this necessitates viewing her as a sex object.
Why view women as sex objects?
So what’s the deal with women? Do they want to be viewed as sex objects? Of course not. But they also don’t want to be treated as princesses. Do not believe a woman when she says she wants a gentleman who would treat her like a princess. Between a dutiful gentleman and a cocky dominant man, a woman would always choose the latter. Ask her why and she may not have an answer. They desire love of a dominant alpha male who is always in charge and acts like their master. Men with alpha-male qualities are aloof, unpredictable, overconfident, narcissistic, unemotional, uncaring, psychopathic,.. And women are sexually aroused by such men because that is how evolution has formed their biology.
Alpha-male qualities correlate with behavior which was necessary for survival in the harsh conditions of the state of nature in our evolutionary history. Women mating with alpha males have had better survival rates of their offspring due to alpha males being better providers and protectors. Therefore, women who are attracted to alpha males are naturally selected by evolution.
In the present-day society such alpha males are not good bets for women. And rationality dictates women choose emotional and caring men, because not only such men can provide for their women and offspring just as well (or even better) today, they would also be better partners overall considering how different today is the relationship between men and women from that in the state of nature thousands of years ago. For one, in civilized societies we have something called marriage and family responsibilities; and people are expected to be virtuous and law abiding to best fulfill their social and familial roles. An alpha male of the wild is not a good candidate for these roles. Alpha males are often those who are bad-boys in the society. (Serial killers are most alpha.) Even women refer to them as jerks when they are speaking out of rationality. But due to their sexual biology they are titillated by the same men nonetheless. Women find alpha males challenging and their biology makes them love such challenges.
That is why women often complain that it is hard for them to find a partner. Men wonder as to how it could be difficult for women to find a partner since the sexual marketplace is largely a seller’s market. It is hard for them for their biological imperative is at odds with their needs in the present-day society. The conflict of natural biological needs and impulses and the dictates of rationality goes both for men as well as women, but for men it is relatively easier to reconcile their animal nature with the rational nature.
For women, not so. As a result while women fall for alpha bad-boys, they also expect them to be nice to them. Note that an out-an-out bad-boy would not hold a woman’s attraction for long and would get rejected as asshole. Women love men who are strong and badass to the world in general and at the same time gentle and caring exclusively to them, albeit, not giving up their dominance. With women, there is such a thing as too much love and tenderness which would turn off their attraction. A man has to always maintain his dominance, be aloof and unpredictable, and display what is called Push/pull approach; meaning, being aloof and emotionally unavailable most of the time, but not all the time, intermittently rewarding the woman with care and attention so as to make her feel she is working hard to earn it. It gives her the tingles and keeps her romantic excitement burning. Women are complex beings like that. That is why most men who take what women say they want at face value fail to understand and satisfy women. Women never tell what their biology, aka, animal nature wants. Men have to observe what women do, not just what they say, to discern the cues.
Now we get to the core of the reason why women need to be viewed as mere sex objects. Viewing women as sex objects basically means not investing emotions in them. I am not suggesting treating them like sex objects, just viewing them like it. Viewing women as sex objects is a psychological modulation necessary for the nice-guys-at-heart to get the right frame of mind to be able to treat women the way they want to be treated. Hence, the title of the article. By rewarding alpha males and men otherwise displaying learned alpha-male behavior which requires not caring, being unemotional etc., women are indirectly asking to be viewed as sex objects.
Why it is necessary is because women don’t get that their romantic needs are actually fantasy ideals. The kind of men they dream about only exist in romance novels and movies. In the real world it is quite unusual for a man to be a bad-boy and a nice-guy at the same time. Bad-boys are natural alpha males (called naturals in seduction literature). They would use women for sex and dump them after draining them of sexual and emotional energy. Nice-guys are virtuous beta males who are chronically rejected and/or friend-zoned by attractive women and have to settle with either fat, unattractive women, or single-moms, or middle-aged women,.. Women don’t get that it is against a real bad-boy’s nature to be loving and caring to a woman, and it is against an empathetic and kindhearted nice-guy’s nature to be psychopathic bad-ass that arouses women. Even the same man can be both at different points in time but not at same time, which makes sense considering that bad-boy and nice-guy qualities are vastly different, mostly opposite.
Therefore, it is only through game that men can be how women want them to be. But it is difficult for a man to love/respect a woman and game her at the same time. By understanding the complex needs of women’s sexual nature nice-guys can modulate their behavior to appeal to women’s sexuality by acting like alpha males and form successful relationships with them. However, for it to succeed a man has to keep from investing in the woman emotionally at all costs. Alpha-male behavior and deep emotional attachment can not coexist in a man.
Game, or viewing women as sex objects, is not misogyny but service to womankind. Without that women would either be disposable fuck-toys of natural alpha males who actually treat them like sex objects or have a bland life with beta males. Or both, in the same order.
How to view women as sex objects?
Think of women like female-androids, robots. The idea is to be able to not get emotionally too attached to her while taking care of her needs.
Drawing parallel with robots is not totally illogical. Women are like robots in many ways. Once one understands woman’s sexual nature it becomes fairly easy to know which buttons to push to get a specific response. Pickup artists do this all the time. A woman driven by animal nature (and women are generally driven by animal nature; they are creatures of instincts) responds so predictably to a pro seducer that it makes one wonder whatever happened to free will. Robots don’t have free will. Just push the right buttons and there you go.
Women’s compliments mean nothing. Women are wired with an ability to filter out beta males by testing them (which are called shit-tests in seduction literature) without even being conscious of it. When a man compliments a woman, most of the times he is being honest; and if a woman displayed joy from the compliment then the man would only feel good about it. But if a man displays joy upon getting a compliment from a woman, he is at a great risk of being permanently filtered out as a beta male. This is true despite the woman’s compliment being honest. Women’s biology registers it as beta-male trait and would turn off her attraction. A man has to remain unaffected for the sake of being unpredictable and also for showing confidence about his worth. Would you be carried away if a robot compliments you?
Women’s talks mean nothing. As I explained above, women have this eternally ongoing conflict between their animal nature and rational nature due to which they are constitutionally incapable to knowing what they want. Women carry huge inconsistencies in their behavior. Their words and actions often don’t match. This is because their words flow from more-or-less rational thoughts while their actions are largely driven by instincts. And to point out their inconsistencies is to give up on any possibility of access to their sexual resources. Would you give any serious consideration to what a robot “thinks” and talks about?
Women’s promises of love mean nothing. Since men don’t have conflicting romantic interests as women, when a man says to his woman that he loves her, it is more reliable indicator of his commitment to the woman. At least if all other things remain the same and the woman continues to love him, his love won’t change. But the same doesn’t work with women. A woman may say to a man that she loves him. But as we noted above, with women there is such a thing as too much love and tenderness. So even if all other things remain the same and the man continues to love the woman, she may still lose interest if the man gets out of line to love her too much. Note that I am not saying that a man’s love never wanes. It does, but never because of the woman being too good. It’s crazy unfair that a man can lose a woman even without doing anything wrong, just by being too good. This aspect of women makes them extremely untrustworthy. (Watch Blue Valentine, a marvelous film on this subject.) Would you take it seriously if a robot promised to be with you forever?
But one would still take good care of a robot by providing timely maintenance, recharging, etc. to keep it functional and in good health. Even emotional attachment is okay in the right measure as long as one remembers about the robot’s nature.